tlb wrote:cthia wrote:This screen name has been placed on my personal ban list. Informing you, affords you a bit more respect, and consideration, than you give me.
One more thing to add to the list of items that I do not understand. This seems to state that I must have a second ID in this forum, but I have no idea why I would want such a thing. However that denial will never reach you, if you have turned off any view of my posts.
It is not clear to me what precipitated this exclusion, not that I think either of us will be hurt by it. It is true that we have we have both written things about each other that would prevent us from being friends, however (without having kept score) I would have imagined that you had given as much as you got.
In this particular thread there are only two things that I can see would set this off:
1. When you wrote about Emily "buying the farm", I questioned the phrase since I understood you to be referring to her submitting to the marriage (since it was to that subject which you had responded), but made it clear that phrase could encompass her death. On rereading what you wrote, it is ambiguous whether you meant death or marriage. The fact that that you have used the phrase numerous times in the forum in the way that I expect, probably means that I was wrong in my immediate interpretation.
2. The use of "RSVP" as a shorthand for a formal invitation is simply something that I had never before encountered. Although I have received engraved wedding invitations, most social gatherings that I am familiar with just involve an email announcing a possible get together. Certainly getting so many formal invitations that I would needs a short name for them is foreign to me.
You have not been added to the list
yet. It was to be completed before I log out.
1. You cannot take things out of context. And I have appealed to you on many occasions to actually read my posts. Granted, my tendency to write incomplete sentences because of my limited time—and because I light so many fires and open so many cans of worms and try to support them all, my way less than perfect mastery of the English language, my typing skills' inability to keep pace with my brain and my uppity spellchecker and yadda—I admit, may all conspire to make my posts unclear. But you often compound it by drawing your sidearm while reading, and read out of context, it doesn't do either of us any good.
I was intensely annoyed because it is obvious you weren't following the conversation, when it is you who opened that vein of thought. You said you were disappointed by how quickly the issue with the marriage was resolved with simply a stroke of the pen, after the author had dragged it out so long. I said that I wasn't surprised because religion and tradition tends to be complicated and cannot be solved so quickly. Especially since it affects two religions, two planets, two societies and two systems. I also suggest/imply that the ease of which it was settled does not necessarily mean that hell and brimstone isn't going on behind the scenes in the churches, and the congregations. On both planets. I went on to question/imply/suggest that the unmentioned church in this conversation—Weber's-and his own convictions since he is a Christian—
may have been the reason of Emily's "death."
2. I try not to harp on the fact that I was raised differently, it seems. Or that I was fortunate to have had benefit of certain things in my way of life, although manners should not be dependent on money. But it is often made difficult to maintain that policy in this forum.
RSVP is used as a noun in my social circles. And has been for my entire life. "Have you received your RSVP?" I remember a time it didn't mean as much to me as it should have. Adolescent boys don't care about such things. IN MY SOCIAL CIRCLES, they are used as a method to imply IMPORTANCE and to simultaneously convey EXCLUSIVITY. The type of people who crash a party are not likely to crash an RSVP. NEITHER are RSVPs LIKELY to be crashed. I have saved quite a few of them from my past as keepsakes, and they have a tendency to be HAND DELIVERED.
