Jonathan_S wrote:And then France was no longer the largest continental power and England switch from fighter her to allying with her against England's former ally Prussia when it coalesced into Germany and looked to dominated Europe.
Also neither side of the war of 1812 inflicted an UTTER defeat - yet the US and England never went back to war with each other.
It seems to me that changing the beliefs or national interests can be plenty to avoid going back to war; and UTTERLY defeating an enemy is only one possible way to bring about that change (and it's not guaranteed to)
Bad example: USA at that time was near 100% the UK's kids. It was essentially a civil war about a vast barbarian wilderness on the far side of the planet with little economic value to the UK. Likewise, majority population in the UK agreed with the fledgling USA but it was not til 100 years later that the UK finally threw off the yoke of the aristocracy. And, the USA, like Australia, Canada is too far away for governance.
A better historical example would be the eternal battles between Turkey/Iran. ONE must dominate and if one does not dominate, then there is war. Or the incessant battles/wars in India over the millenia. Another example would be the historical divide in China between Interior, the northern Manchus, and the South. Effective governance control does not work due to time lag. Why some historians think China will fall apart ... and why I think China will not and is only getting more unified.
I can think of no historical example of where equal powers or near equal powers survive without war for dominance. How the world works. You are either top alpha dog, or beta dog meat. Believing anything else is utopian foolishness.
As regards to the Honorverse, it is near impossible to have the small petty wars turn into giant wars as the fence lines are the useless vacuum of space composed of light years of empty nothingness. This makes governance more like the UK and its far flung empire before the Telegraph which means local autonomy and eventually the regions going their own way.