npadln wrote: Another aspect of these books that makes me cringe a bit is how Honor calls her Queen, Beth. I'm Canadian and my mother and 99% of my relations are British. I see this kind of informality as being rude and disrespectful. The British Prime Minister, Benjamin Disraeli and Queen Victoria were said to have much affection for each other throughout his life and while she might occasionally address him as Benjamin he on the other hand would NEVER not address her preeminence. Still friendly, still respectful. It's just that that's the way it is. I could be wrong however because it isn't the British monarchy (and also I am not an expert on the proper etiquette) so I don't get worked up over it but I wonder if this is an American blind spot.
It's not 18th or 19th century Britain. Sure, the setting is built to harken back to the Age of Sail, and Manticore's political system certainly bears some resemblance, but it's a very different social milieu. Victorian class consciousness isn't fitting there; early 21st century Windsor expectations wouldn't be either.
The whole Manticoran inherited status scheme doesn't share any roots with monarchies or aristocracies on Earth - it's a recreation that got banged out purely and simply to keep enough political power out of the hands of all the immigrants and their descendants. It's only people who've lost all touch with that history in-universe who take "good breeding" seriously.
Elizabeth's attitude toward formality seems to be that it's a tool for use in public, when she's on the job. (She inherited her job, sure, she's always on call, and there are a lot of hours, but still - it's a job.) It's something she has to assume, keep up, and use for the sake of the exercise of her office. Sometimes, it's something she may be happy to use to cut off some twit. Other than that, she won't have any more desire to keep up any more social distance with friends than anyone else - maybe less, given how much distance she
has to keep during all those on-the-job hours, including her entire life in public.